i was in lying in bed last night, and i began to think about my love languages. my thoughts were triggered by my little cousin, who, at that moment, was basically strangling me as she lay fast asleep. and it didn't bother me.
i know, people talk about love languages a lot, and i've been asked for the list as well as requested the list plenty of times, and yet i've never felt that i've been able to explain my answers. and what better place to babble than here?
so...in order of decreasing importance, here they are: (as a reminder, these are the same for guys and girls...just making sure that was clear :) )
1. physical touch
i really don't know why this is number one. all i know is that i love hugs, and that there can never be enough people on the couch.
2. quality time
i love spending extended time with people. we don't even have to be talking or anything. i just like that you would rather be in the same room with me than any other place. and vice versa.
of course...it's always fun to do an activity together...like cooking or exercising or watching a movie.
3. gift giving/receiving
i know it seems kind of superficial, but this language has nothing to do with money. at least not the way i interpret it. let's say you love to read, i'll get you a 50 cent bookmark with quotes or verses, etc. you know, personalized. in the same way, it really shows me that you love me if you spend time figuring out what i would like and making it/buying it. warning: i actually kinda hate expensive gifts...they tell me that you think i'm superficial. and i would never give you something expensive...i'm as poor as heck.
4. acts of service
as much as i appreciate it when you do my laundry (mom) or maybe wash my car, i don't know if i would consider it love. maybe it's because that's not the first thing i would think to do for someone that i loved. honestly, i do those things when i feel that i owe you something, and i feel the same way when you do them for me.
5. words of affirmation
i have a really hard time telling you how i feel about you. whether you're an amazing friend or maybe you have a great talent...you'd never know it if all you had to judge by were my words. i can't even tell my mom or dad that i love them...i just sit there for a couple of excruciating seconds of silence as my mind reels with the words that it won't spit out.
in the same way, words are hard for me to receive. compliments are nice, but my brain refuses to take them in. most of the time, i find them hard to believe. by all means...keep dishing them out...they're not completely unheard...i just hope that's not the only way you hope to show your love for me...cuz i won't get it.